Are the Things Taking Up Your Time Really What You Want?

By Alaia Williams

What is it that you want out of life right now? A successful business? A romantic partner? An organized home? A vacation?

Are you living a life that reflects what you want for yourself and what you value? Not sure? Try this:

Grab a piece of paper, a journal, or open up a new document on your computer. Ask yourself, "what's taking up my time?" Make a list. Here is an example of things you might include: work, time with your spouse or kids, time with other family, time with friends, volunteer commitments, spiritual development, errands, home improvement, etc.

Examine your list. Your list reflects who you are - but is that who you want to be?

What do you want for your life? Do you wish you could adopt a dog, yet you have a schedule that keeps you away from home 18 hours a day? Do you share with your friends how much you want to have a "special someone" in your life and yet you don't leave room for dating? Or maybe you are already in a relationship, but you aren't taking the time to cultivate and nurture it with your partner?

Take time to carefully plan out what you can scale back on or cut out entirely so that you can create room in your life for the things that you want. Go to the next step: now that you have created the time, what else do you need to do to bring those things into your life? Just because I took two weeks off from work does not mean that I have the resources to take a trip to Argentina. Most likely I'd need to put in more hours at work for a short time, curb any unnecessary spending, apply for a passport, and so on.

While it can be nice to fantasize, wouldn't you love to turn those flights of fancy into reality? How can you turn these things you want into tangibles? How can you get your time to reflect your values and the things you really want?

  • Decide what you really want.

  • Figure out what you need to do to get what you want.

  • Turn that list of things you need to do into goals and priorities.

  • Create milestones and deadlines for your goals.

  • Tell people you trust about what you want to create accountability and support for yourself.


You won't get what you want by sitting around on your butt all day - unless what you want is more time to sit on your butt. Dream about it, but make sure you back those dreams up with actions. We're given 24 hours in a day. Leverage your time and create the life you want.


Alaia Williams is a Professional Organizer who loves helping people create spaces they can feel good about. You can find out more about Alaia at her website and get more organizing tips at the One Organized Life Blog.

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