Three Things You Must Do to Create a Mindset for Success

by Deborah A. Bailey

Do you find yourself spending a lot of time planning and thinking, but you never take action? Are you a “big picture” person who has no patience for details? Feeling stuck because you can’t decide on the right course of action?

Managing your career or your business involves more than you might think – it's not just about dealing with your professional life. It’s essential that you identify the areas in your personal life that are blocking you from moving forward.

Step #1: Identify the Tolerations in Your Life

Are you still stepping over shoes you left in the middle of the floor? Is there a pile of junk mail on your kitchen table? Are there things that are on your “to do” list that never get done?

What are you tolerating in your life? Are you willing to address these issues so that you can move forward?

Don’t underestimate the effect that small irritations can have on your life. Small irritations can grow into larger problems that can keep you stuck in old patterns. Coping mechanisms that you may use to get around having to fix or clear annoyances can end up taking over your life. Having little things left undone is only a reflection of larger issues you may not be addressing.

Make a list of the things that you want to clean, or change, or replace. Prioritize and do one thing on the list every day or each week.

Step #2: Stop Expecting the Future to Be Like the Past

If you’ve been disappointed in the past with a job change, for instance, you may believe that you’ll never find a job that is the right fit for you. If you’ve had abusive managers or worked in negative environments, you might think that every workplace will be the same.

Focusing on the past (and all of the disappointments) keeps you stuck. It’s hard to move forward if all you can see ahead of you is more of the same.

Have a new idea for your business? Are you afraid to take a chance because your previous actions have had disappointing results?

Write down your idea of what your perfect business or life will look like. Don’t edit or judge – just write whatever comes to mind. Carry a journal to capture your ideas when you’re away from your home or office.

Release your expectations of what may happen in the future. You have no idea what will happen until it actually does. Make a small step and see what happens. You never know what will happen until you try – but doing nothing will keep you stuck.

Step #3: Give Up Control and Stay Open to Opportunities

If you have low expectations of what you’ll get from a job or a relationship, what you receive will match those expectations. Or, you may refuse to accept the good things that come to you because they don’t come to you in the way you’re expecting.

When you stay in control, you shut out the unexpected and the unpredictable.

Getting "unstuck" means you have to take a bit of a risk to find the new job, relationship, or brand new life that you’ve been dreaming about. Be open and be willing to release the outcome of your actions.

If you can’t conceive of enormous success, financial abundance or a fulfilling life it will be hard to achieve those things if you want to stay in control of how they come to you.

Begin today to make the positive changes so that you can create the life you desire.

Copyright © 2008 Deborah A. Bailey

Deborah A. Bailey is author of two non-fiction books including, “Think Like an Entrepreneur: Transforming Your Career and Taking Charge of Your Life .” She's also the creator and host of Women Entrepreneurs Radio, a weekly internet talk show. Her fiction work includes a short story collection and a novel, available on 
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1 comment

billetts said...

I really enjoyed this article, thank you!! These are all things I know I need to do, but need to be reminded of importance of actually taking the necessary steps to change. Journaling has always been a proactive way to start and track your changes and is something I do not do often enough.

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