The Ultimate Control

by Doreen Rainey

"The only thing any entrepreneur, salesperson or anyone in any position can control is their effort."

I love this quote from Mark Cuban because it serves as a great reminder that we always have the power to move forward in the midst of challenges, disappointment and setbacks if we focus on matching up what we can control with our effort. And it applies to any area of our life.

Now, there's no denying that there are some things that are completely out of our control. But if they are truly out of our control, why worry, fret or spend time and energy thinking about it, pondering it or talking about it?

What better place to put your time and energy than into those areas that you can control - that you can impact?

When clients begin working with me, I explain that my coaching programs are "action based". That means that our relationship is not only based on sharing information, tools and strategies to empower you to define your goals and create a success plan, but I also support you to take RADICAL action with what you are learning. I love the saying: knowledge is not power - applied knowledge is power.

While we know that we SHOULD focus on what we have control over and put our efforts there, we don't always act on it. So, I thought this would be a good time for us to take a look at where we are putting our efforts, making sure that we're not giving our energy to those things out of our control.

Look at your life right now - what are the two biggest areas you are most concerned about? Is it related to your job, your business, or maybe your finances? Are your top priorities around your family or your health? Whichever two you pick, get out a piece of paper (or your computer, phone or iPad!) and list out what the 2 biggest challenges are in each of the two areas.

Next, take each challenge and make two lists - one outlining what is out of your control in that situation, and the other - what is in your control.

For the list of items not in your control - cross them out or delete them. Completely remove, erase or delete them from your site. Now, look at what's left. These are the things that are in your control. This is where you should direct your energy.

Finally, ask yourself "what effort will I commit to managing what's in my control"?

You'll find that at the end of this exercise, you've just equipped and empowered yourself to take positive, proactive action towards meeting your challenges head on.

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© 2013 Doreen Rainey

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