Introvert At Work! How To Thrive On The Job When You Aren’t A People Person

Being an introvert has its challenges, and there are fewer bigger hurdles than the workplace. If you happen to be an introvert working in a busy office, you may feel constantly overwhelmed.

Don’t despair! With a bit of preparation, you can handle anything the workplace throws at you and find a career you love. Here are a few tips:

1. Before you accept a job, look at the work environment.


Even if your job is otherwise great, the wrong work environment can soon drag you down. As an introvert, open-plan offices are probably your idea of hell. Always ask the interviewer to show you around the building.

2. Accept that you aren’t going to change.


The most important step towards leading a happy life as an introvert is to accept your nature. You might be able to fake extraversion from time to time, but you will always feel more energized from spending time alone. Resist the urge to compare yourself to your more outgoing co-workers.

3. Make a couple of close friends.


As an introvert, it’s unrealistic to expect that you’ll make friends with everyone at work. A much smarter strategy is to focus on just a couple of people who seem to be on your wavelength.

Keep your interactions low-key; smile as you pass by on your way to the break room, or ask them how their important project is going. It might take a few weeks to build a strong rapport, but your efforts will pay off.

By the way, don’t assume that you can’t make friends with extroverts. Opposites can attract. As long as they accept your introverted ways, an extrovert can actually make a great ally. For a start, they can shield you from louder, nosier folk!

4. Schedule some alone time.


Few of us have complete control over how we spend our time at work. However, you can buy yourself some time to recharge throughout the day by scheduling five or ten minutes to be alone. For instance, when booking appointments allow a clear window between every meeting.

5. Experiment with white noise.


If your workplace allows it, stick on some headphones and listen to some background noise that cancels out office chatter. For example, listening to recordings of natural sounds can help you relax. Wearing earphones also discourages others from trying to interrupt you.

6. Ask your boss whether you could work from home.


Most introverts love the idea of working from home. It may not be practical for you to telecommute all the time, but a couple of days might be possible. Alternatively, ask whether it would be possible to work in a quiet side room a couple of hours per day.

Finally, don’t be afraid to be open about your introversion. 


Your co-workers have probably noticed that you aren’t fond of small talk, and that you like working alone. Own it! Give yourself lots of praise for making it through the tough days. Don’t forget to unwind after work by enjoying one of your favorite solo activities.
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About the Author

Clara Masters is an entrepreneur and content marketer. In a former life, as a corporate business executive, she relied on yoga, reflexology and alternative practices to fight stress, anxiety and find balance. At Massageaholic.com she’s on a mission to bring massage therapy closer to those who want to live a balanced, healthy life, connecting body, mind and spirit. You can follow her on Facebook and Pinterest.


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Mompreneur Alverna Cher: "How to Turn Failure into Fuel & Keep Your Dreams Burning" on Women Entrepreneurs Radio

Show #472

Alverna Cher, started her journey as an entrepreneur when she was 25 years old. After failing twice in business partnerships, she's running two businesses now and raising two daughters single-handedly. Alverna Cher’s motto:  "Always Invest in Yourself," empowers her to continue upgrading herself.

Her achievements are:  1) accredited with the "Focus on Family" as a facilitator in 2012, 2) Certified Will Writer in 2016, 3) Certified Grief counselor in 2017, 4) the 1st funeral director in Singapore to provide holistic CARE planning.

Alverna started her journey as an entrepreneur in 2007, when she was just 25 years old, as an employment agent. After 4 dedicated years, she suffered a hit in her recruitment business. With a motto of, "Never Stop Learning," she switched her profession to the education industry, where she increased her knowledge in education and was accredited with the "Focus on Family" as a facilitator in 2012, all while working with Mind Champs as an education coach. 

Despite her busy schedule, she also manages to read parenting books and attend parenting coaching lessons to help groom and raise both her daughters. Alverna Cher is not only an inspiring and hardworking businesswoman but also a caring and devoted mother.

Alverna was invited to share, "Will Writing for Family’s Experience"  (she has since written 1500 wills) on air at Radio FM97.2, and her story was featured in major local and Asian press. She was also invited to share her entrepreneur journey with a group of 5000 women in Hanoi, Vietnam, Success Conference Asia 2018.

Another mott of of Alverna's: "turning failure into fuel that keeps dreams burning," has inspired her surrounding mothers in her Facebook group, "Support for the Sole Breadwinner," and inspired business women in the role as community leader with "Soul Rich Woman," founded by Genecia Alluora, to stay strong and ride thru hardships to see rainbow at the end.

Despite her busy schedule, she also manages to read parenting books and attend parenting coaching lessons to help groom and raise both her daughters. Alverna Cher is not only an inspiring and hardworking businesswoman but also a caring and devoted mother.





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How Women Can Stay Motivated in a Male-Dominated Business Environment

by Sophie Garrod

Just because you’re outnumbered by male colleagues should not stop you wanting to challenge for the big roles and climb that corporate ladder.

No matter what industry you’re in, here are 5 strategies that will help you advance your career and keep motivated to reach the top.

1. Ask for what you want

Women tend to be politer and less assertive in getting what they want from their employer. This seems to be the opposite for male counterparts.

Now I’m not saying that men are rude and aggressive, I’m making the point that they are more to the point and are not as afraid to make their demands.

One of the hot topics at present is the pay gap between men and women. It’s clearly not right for men to get paid more for a job that a woman is doing or can do just as well.

Having said that, perhaps part of the difference comes from men being more assertive in asking for that raise.

How can this keep you motivated? Easy.

Ask for what you want.

Don’t be put off for asking what you want.

If you want that promotion, tell your manager that you think you’re best suited for the role and want to be considered for the job.

Once you start being more assertive, you will be seen as a leader and this is very motivational.

2. Speak up

Sounds obvious but it really does help.

Make sure you are speaking up in meetings and give your opinion. Your views are just as important as everyone else’s around that table.

Don’t allow people to interrupt you. The more that you value what you’re talking about, the more it will come across in what you’re saying and people will listen.

And don’t feel like you need to apologise!

Harvard Business Review found that women tend to apologise way more than men, even for things they haven’t done wrong.

How crazy is that?

Use this as motivation and make sure you are getting yourself heard as much as everyone else.



3. Acknowledge that your work is great

I’m talking to you, the woman who always does an excellent job but never looks to take the credit.
On one hand I’m like ‘You go girl!’ but on the other, I want you to own it. If you’ve done something brilliant, you should be recognised for it.

It’s great and all to praise your colleagues because it’s good to be a part of a great team, but at the same time, you must be responsible for your success.

The bigger role you play, the more confident you become in what you can do. Seeing how awesome you are and translating it into results is highly motivational.

This applies to women working as an employee or as part of their own business looking to win over a new client. For example, eCommerce businesses choose an Amazon expert that proves how great they are at making more sales rather than saying ‘I got lucky that this product took off.’

Take responsibility for your accomplishments.

4. Get networking

Don’t just stand there and let the men get all the good contacts. Sure, they may be playing golf and you don’t like golf, but do you think every man that goes to these events likes it?

No!

It’s not about how great your swing is, it’s just business. Men attend these events because they see it as a way to further their careers.

It will be no different for you. Next time a networking opportunity arises, put your name forward and be part of it.

From the contact’s point of view, it will be refreshing to see a new face representing the business.
Your approach may even be more favourable than your male counterparts, giving you the contact rather than them.

Again, I’m not against men, but how awesome does that sound?

5. Share your successes with other women

The more success you get, the more you should share it with the women you know.

There are way too many negative stories in the media about women in the workplace and enough is enough. It’s time that women should celebrated for their accomplishments and to get this started, success stories should be shared with other women.

Empowering womankind is highly motivational, wouldn’t you agree? Eventually, every role you can think of will have just as many women as men.

For that to happen, you need to share your stories and inspire them that it is possible to achieve great things. And that is so exciting.

You are still going to need to work hard but by doing so, other women will follow suit.

We are going to be so successful in the coming years and I can’t wait to see your achievements be headline news.

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"How to Overcome Fear of Rejection and Make the Sale" with Andrea Waltz on Women Entrepreneurs Radio

Andrea Waltz
Show #476

Topic: "Overcoming fear of failure, rejection, and hearing the word, 'No.'"

Andrea Waltz returns to the podcast to discuss how you should be willing to fail in order to ask for the sale, the 5 failure levels and the growth mindset and the fixed mindset. 

Andrea Waltz is the co-author of Go for No! Yes is the Destination, No is How You Get There.  Along with her husband and business partner Richard Fenton, she has made her mission to liberate people from fears of failure and rejection, sharing an entire new mindset about hearing the word NO.  

They have spoken all over the US and the UK teaching the "Go for No" strategies – having been embraced by people in a wide variety of industries and businesses to rave reviews and amazing results. Andrea’s book hit #1 on Amazon’s “Selling” list and has remained in the top 20 of "Sales" books for over the last 8 years. 

Twitter: @goforno
Website: www.goforno.com 



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How She Does It: Sara Schaer CEO of Kango

Sara Schaer has been a female in the tech industry for much of career but decided 5 years ago to become a female founder as well. Sara started Kango which is a rideshare app for kids based in Silicon Valley. Sara took the two things she knows best, parenting and tech, and created a service to bring ridesharing and child care to busy families.

Kango currently serves six counties in the Bay Area and has expanded to Los Angeles as of June 2018. Thought this would be a great time to reach out to you because she just announced a one of a kind partnership with Chrysler. The car company is providing a fleet of Hybrid minivans to eligible Kango drivers which is a win/win for the environment and parents as the minivans also provide best-in-class safety and technology.

Deb Bailey: Welcome to the blog, Sara. Would you share with everyone how you got started as an entrepreneur?

Sara Schaer: I started as product manager #2 for Snapfish.com where I grew the product team from 2 to 50 people globally. During this time, I realized how much of an influence technology - smartphones in particular - was having on families around me, especially my own. That's when I came up with the idea for Kango. I wanted to build a mobile-enabled platform that would help busy families. We created a safe, secure app to connect parents with heavily screened, trusted Kango drivers to get their kids from A to B. As a working mom myself, helping other moms "have it all" was especially important to me.


Deb: Are there any “lessons learned” that you’d like to share?

Sara: Always be confident in yourself and your product. Even if you're in a room filled with people who aren't like you, or who are skeptical, realize you have something special and confidently ask for what you need.


Deb: Who are your ideal clients?

Sara: Any family can use Kango - from working parents who need regular help juggling their children's schedules, to parents who need someone to pick up their kids and babysit them after school due to a late meeting, to a one-off instance where mom or dad has something unforeseen pop up and needs a helping hand.


Deb: What are some of your successes and challenges?

Sara: One of our recent successes was championing a first-of-kind partnership with Chrysler. They provided us with hybrid Pacifica Minivans for eligible Kango drivers to use while picking up children. It's been great working with a partner who clearly understands our vision and sees that ridesharing - for everyone - is part of the future. A challenge has been keeping up with the demand for the service. We've had to adjust and scale quickly because demand exceeded our projections; it's a good problem to have, but keeps us busy!


Deb: It certainly is a good problem to have. What inspires you to do the work you do?

Sara: Definitely my family and other working mothers. I couldn't have made it this far without their support and advice. And I felt compelled to help modern parents avoid the struggles I experienced, starting when my children were very small yet needed to go places.


Deb: What’s your vision for your business?

Sara: Right now, we're the safest and most reliable service and I'd like to bring the Kango service to busy families all over the country – perhaps beyond.


Deb: What advice would you give to women entrepreneurs who are just starting out?

Sara: Persist. Female founders may experience more resistance or skepticism, but don’t give up. Be prepared. You may be asked gender-oriented or parenthood-specific questions, but be prepared with your answers so you don’t get caught off-guard.


Deb: Entrepreneurs are always on the go. What is your favorite activity to relax and unwind?

Sara: Whenever I need to unwind or catch my breath I like to take a walk outside, even briefly. Stepping out into nature, getting exercise and breathing fresh air helps me to focus.


Deb: What do you wish you could tell your younger self?

Sara: The sleepless nights are worth it - so keep persevering!


Deb: Terrific advice. What do you think are the top 3 traits an entrepreneur must have?

Sara:
- Passion – to drive your mission and keep you going

- Resilience – to keep trying even in the face of failure or rejection

- Intellectual flexibility – juggling a seemingly infinite variety of tasks, transitioning from one domain to another, feels like mental gymnastics. Things happen quickly! It’s never boring.

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How often do you get distracted?

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by Chris Atley

What I’ve come to realize is the better you feel about yourself at the core, the more you value your time.

Meaning you say no to things that are not in alignment with your values and only yes to the things you do. You are conscious with how long things take, and create the space to get these things done.

You also take time for what makes you thrive. Self-care wise.

You are also great with blocking time. Staying focused on the task at hand, that you have decided to focus on. Turning off your phone and notifications, and staying on course – whether this is a work related task or a yoga class.

You stay out of drama for the most part.

You do not let other people’s drama suck you in. You are dedicated to the task at hand. Unless of course there is an emergency, but you get the gist. You are not letting the world interrupt you. You value yourself and stay true to what makes you and your business thrive.

This is what a high self-worth looks like. Where you are deciding what you say yes or no to, and where those decisions are in alignment with your highest good.

Where you’re okay with disappointing others, and when you do say no, people miraculously respect you more! You start to attract other confident and happy people into your life too, because this is what you are radiating out.

If you’re not quite there, or if you’ve slipped, what can you do to get back on track? How can you strengthen your self-esteem every day? How can you create an empowered schedule that reflects your greatest good, and highest values and priorities?

Lets do it.

xo


Written by Success Speaker & Coach Chris Atley, CEO of Chris Atley LLC ~ Decisions by Design. For complimentary success tips for business and life, please visit www.chrisatley.com.

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5 Ways You Can Make a Better Society for People With Disabilities

by Gigi Wara

5 Ways to Help Those Who Have a Disability


As a business owner, you want to attract as many customers as possible. But, what if you are able to help in building a better society while also attracting new patrons? It is actually a win for you and everyone else involved. There are many areas in this society to be improved. There are also many ways you can give back to the society. And, helping those with disabilities is one of the important aspects for anyone to consider. So how do you know how to help someone with disability in your own way when you’re a business owner? You can read below to find out.

1. Consider the Disabled Community as Important Patrons


Disabled people are no less important than people who are not disabled. This is especially true in the business world. A business minded person needs to understand that everyone's money spends the same. Sometimes making money is all about attracting more customers. Well, if you don't want to raise the prices of your goods and services that is. In fact, by catering to the disabled community, you are already doing something that many other businesses in your area aren't: supporting a forgotten community. Helping those with disabilities, by providing them with ease of access or specialized services, is a great way to stand out from your competitors.

2. Employ People Who Are Disabled. They Can Be Just As Ambitious As Others


By employing someone with a disability you are showing that you are merciful. Chances are, this person that you hired has been turned down time after time. They are sure to be appreciative of being given an opportunity. This means they may go above and beyond to show you thanks. You could even begin to notice that they are doing their job better than the last person that held their positions.

Hiring disabled people is also great PR. Walmart, who frequently hires disabled people as greeters, get a lot of praise for their willingness to give disabled people a chance.

Helping someone with disability will also give you a great feeling of pride.


3. Create An Athletic Scholarship For Disabled People


This one may not be a good choice for everyone; however, if your business is booming, experiencing unimaginable growth, and has money to spare you can begin a scholarship for disabled people. There are plenty of disabled people who excel at sports, so providing an athletic scholarship to disabled people is a great way to connect with the disabled community. Providing educational help for someone with disability will have customers lining up outside your door once they hear of your kindness and compassion.

You are also providing a way for someone to better themselves. By helping a disabled person attend college you are changing their lives forever. Nothing feels as good as being altruistic.

4. Support Organisations That Help People With Disabilities.


Donating to charities is one of the easiest, most effective ways to help those with disabilities. A business own likely has extra money to donate to charities, and these donations can often be considered tax credits. You really can't go wrong with donating to charity.

There are many charitable organisations that help people with disabilities. CYDA, for example, is an Australian-based non-profit organisation who provides therapies and activities to children with disability.

In the United States, Blooming With Autism, for example, provide therapies and activities to children with autism. They have gymnastics classes, karate classes, speech classes, and more. Jodi Davis, the founder of Blooming with Autism decided to create the organisation because one of her daughters was diagnosed with autism as a toddler.

Prince’s Trust, a UK-based charity, is another great charity to donate to. This charity focuses on helping young people with physical and learning disabilities to greater levels of their independence through the provision of mobility aids, employability training and family support.

5. Show Respect to People With Disabilities


This tip should be followed by everyone, not just business owners. People who are not disabled can sometimes forget to think before they say or do something around a disabled person. So how can you show respect to persons with disabilities? There are many different ways to show a disabled person respect. One of the best ways to show respect is to ask before helping them. A person may be prideful in providing for themselves. If you see a disabled person trying to do something difficult, perhaps they enjoy performing difficult tasks. Always ask a disabled person if they need help before assisting them.

Here is another important piece of advice: never play with a disabled person's service dog. These dogs are trained to behave a certain way. They receive treats and praise when they perform their tasks well. Do not pet them because the dog may interpret this as being praised even when he hasn't done his job. This could break the dog of his training, leading to accidents or worse.

Most people already know about this one, but it needs to be mentioned. Do not use handicapped services, like parking spots or bathroom stalls, if you are not disabled. You never know when someone who is actually disabled may need to use these services.

Perhaps the best way to help those with disabilities is to put yourself in their shoes. Try to imagine what they are thinking when you approach them or treat them a certain way. They often don't want to be treated special, but they do want the services, goods, and accommodations that non-disabled people have. Always think before speaking, and especially, make sure that your business is outfitted for the needs of a disabled person.

Author Bio: Gigi Wara is an inspired writer who loves writing about language and acquisition, career building and education-related stories in general. This time around, her post comes courtesy of Open Minds, an Australian-organisation which has proudly committed to supporting people living with mental illness, disability or acquired brain injury.
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