Your Career Won’t Wake Up One Morning and Tell You It Doesn’t Love You

by Heather Hernandez

How to Get Through a Divorce and Keep Doing You


When the process of divorce is in the early stages, there are a wave of emotions. You might feel vastly relieved. You might have even felt like your marital issues were putting a crimp in your style or sabotaging your business in some way.

Divorce is a two-edged sword: a sadness over a failed marriage and a relief that you can be you again. The divorce process itself is a time of healing. It is also a time for empowerment.

Life doesn’t come to a screeching halt because you have decided to make a change in everything that is normal to you. This is especially true when you have your own business. When you are in control of making your own living, things cannot come to a sudden halt because one part of your life changed. You still need to keep moving forward. Your clients need you. Your business needs you. The fact is, you need you. As many divorced entrepreneurs can tell you: your business might be your saving grace.


Change Can Be Good


While some people are unwilling to admit or accept this, marriage in and of itself changes you, or rather you change to fit your marriage. Did it strengthen or weaken you? Did you like the changes that it brought out in you? No matter how you answer those questions, they made you think. Now think about this: What part of your marriage changed you in ways you both did and didn’t like? Who were you before you were married?

As an entrepreneur, there is one more question that needs to be asked: Who have you become since you started your own business? This is the person you need to focus on. Chances are that the person who started the business is the one who takes center stage. You no longer need to focus on taking care of your marriage. You can pour more focus on your business and make it an even greater success. But if there were good things that came from your marriage that made your business better, then hold on to them. Learn from them. Incorporate the good and walk away from the bad.


Let Your Business Heal You


What is it that drove you to start your own business? For most people, it is something that comes from deep within. Perhaps you were unhappy working for others. Perhaps you knew that you would be better on your own. Whatever drove you to start your business is also what took hold and helped you succeed. This same drive can, and will, help you get through the divorce process. Just remember that you are an entrepreneur first and one of many successful divorced entrepreneurs second.

By focusing on your business, you have little time to focus on the other things going on in your life. Your business is a part of you. It is not going anywhere. It needs you more than ever now. By putting more energy into your business, you will find yourself healing from your divorce more quickly.

Your business would not be successful if it wasn’t your primary focus. Chances are that the issues leading up to your divorce took time away from your business. Now that those distractions are being removed from your life, your business cannot help but grow.

While going through a divorce isn’t easy in any way, if your business becomes more profitable as a result of it, you will find yourself healing much more quickly than others going through the divorce process. You would not be successful if you were anything less than driven. Use that same drive to propel yourself forward with your business. The less you focus on the negative, the more the positive can come through. Positive thoughts and actions mean more money to the successful entrepreneur. By focusing on the positive, you can feel better, hold your chin up, and succeed like never before.

Probably the most important thing to remember is that you will always be you. Being divorced just gives you a better opportunity to focus on you and your business.



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