When in Doubt

by Deborah A. Bailey

So what happens when you have doubts about your dream? You can see it...most of the time. Other times it seems much too difficult or too far away from your current reality to ever manifest. Perhaps people have told you that you're crazy, or that you aren't the type of person to take such risks. But still your dreams won't let you alone. You try to walk away from them, but they're always in the back of your mind.

In my opinion, doubt can never destroy a dream, but it can delay your bringing it to life. Every time you say, this can't happen you push your dream a bit further away. So, how do you deal with doubt?

1. Write down your dreams and ideas in a journal or notebook. Keep them private or share them with your support system. Don't judge them or try to determine how logical they are (or aren't).

2. Get quiet and create a vision for what your dream would be like if you were living it right now. Sit down and close your eyes and see the pictures. Feel your emotions. Smell and taste and touch your vision. How does it feel?

3. When you feel doubt, ask yourself where this is coming from. Is it a fear of the unknown? Are you feelings based on past disappointments? Do you doubt your dreams because you've been told they're silly or unrealistic?

4. Think about the things you've accomplished in other areas of your life. When we're in doubt, we think about our failures, and not our successes.

5. Accept that it's not important that you know how your dream will manifest. The "how" is not as important as the "what." (As in, knowing what you want.) This is the hardest thing to let go of because it means surrendering control. When you try to control it, we base our expectations on what's happened in the past - not on what's possible in your life right now.

Doubts will never completely go away. They're part of being human. So don't wait for them to disappear before you embrace your dreams; keep believing in them and visualizing them. You'll be surprised at what you will accomplish.

by Langston Hughes

Hold fast to dreams
For if dreams die
Life is a broken-winged bird
That cannot fly.

Hold fast to dreams
For when dreams go
Life is a barren field
Frozen with snow.

Deborah A. Bailey is author of two non-fiction books including, “Think Like an Entrepreneur: Transforming Your Career and Taking Charge of Your Life.”

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