Stress and Health Tele-summit

Dates: Tuesday and Thursday from 5-6pm EST from November 10 - December 15, 2009
Cost: $0

Do you know that over 75% of all the diseases in the US are stress and lifestyle related? Are you looking for more ways to understand the link between stress and health and find alternative ways to live a life of health and wellness?

This is your invitation to attend an eye-opening teleseminar series that will lead you on a journey of self discovery as well as increased health, joy, passion, and confidence in your life.

Monica Thakrar of Joyful Soul Coaching will interview eight stress and health experts to provide you with insights on how stress is impacting your health, what you can do to manage your stress, and practical tools, techniques and methods that you can begin using right away to feel enhanced energy and well-being.

Listen to the speakers stories of leading lives of health and wellness and learn how to begin to implement these strategies into your life. Learn what you can do to bring increased relaxation, fun, and enjoyment into your day to day activities.

Register for this transformational, no-cost event in two easy steps:

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If you have ANY health or wellness goals for 2010 (or maybe you know you should but haven't set them yet!) THIS IS FOR YOU!

It Starts Here: Discover How You Can Have Success in Your Life by Marc-Andre Terriault

Author Marc-André Terriault contacted me recently to tell me about his new book. Today, October 28th is the official launch and I'm very excited to share the details with you!

In a world where we live through an international financial crisis, where lives and futures are put on hold, motivation and direction have abandoned us and in their place, fear took a comfortable seat.

But not anymore…

With Marc-André Terriault’s new e-book “It Starts Here: Discover How You Can Find Success in Your Life” you’ll learn how to pull yourself out of the darkness and back into the light.

“Success is in every one of us; we just need realize it and take the necessary action to accomplish any and all of the goals we set ourselves,” says Marc-Andre Terriault, owner of Cheers to the Good Life.

“It amazes me to see how much we are bombarded with information with no actual sense of direction,” explains Marc-Andre who’s also a real estate investor. “We are lost in an empty world, we need direction and by reading my e-book you’ll be able to motivate yourself and really take charge of your life.

Marc-Andre was held captive in a prison in his own mind for almost 27 years. Before he took action and changed his life, he too was trapped in an empty world. Now he is eager to teach everyone how to find success in their lives.

Click here to purchase his life changing e-book and receive special free bonuses!

Want to Expand Your Professional Circle but Lack Strong Networking Skills?

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by Kristin Marquet

Effective business networking skills are essential to meeting other individuals and building solid and trusting relationships.

When professionals have a network they can rely on, it makes connecting with potential clients, partners, and employees easier.

Additionally, the more individuals that view you and your business positively, it will help expand your brand.

1. Act genuine and sincere. Build trust in relationships within the people you meet. Most business people can smell a phony person from a mile away, thus it's important to give a positive and genuine impression every time you meet someone new.

2. Determine what your goals and objectives are. Before attending any networking event, make sure it is for the right reason. Some events are for making contacts, while others are for learning a certain trade or industry. If you are a fashion designer, I don't think you would attend the American Bar Association Mid Winter Conference for Surety and Fidelity.

3. Join as many associations and groups to expand your professional circle within your industry. Many groups allow prospective members to preview how the group is organized by sitting in a seminar or attending an event.

4. Offer to volunteer in different organizations and events. It is a great way to remain visible while giving back to the organization.

5. While networking, ask questions of who, what, where, when and how as opposed to questions that can answered with a simple "yes" or "no."

6. By joining different groups and associations, your brand becomes transparent and you become a resource to others within the industry. It will also help you be identified as an expert within your industry.

7. If you have a certain person that would like to speak to, make sure you have a clear approach. You don't want to sound like you have no idea what you are talking about when you open the conversation.

8. Have a clear mission of how you can help networking professionals.

9. Respond quickly and efficiently to referrals. Don't make others look bad by not delivering results that you promised.

10. Make connections and ask others if they would be interested in networking.

With a no B.S. attitude, Kristin Marquet is the founder and managing director of Creative Development Agency (formerly award-winning firm, Marquet Media). Kristin also develops, manages, and implements various internal and external communication and social media initiatives. With a strong eye for creating memorable brands and a diverse range of knowledge, Kristin provides strategic counsel to clients interested in developing successful internal and external communication programs across all media platforms.

Kristin Marquet is a regular contributor to the Secrets of Success blog. 

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Henry McIntosh

What are Your Money Rules?

by Miata Edoga

Many of us have rules about all sorts of things. You may have rules about your diet: "Eat only one serving of red meat each week." Or "No caffeine after 6:00 PM." We remember the rules from when we were in school: "Raise your hand to ask a question." "No running in the hallways." Those of us with children probably have LOTS of rules - certainly more than we thought we'd have when we were kids ourselves: "No television until homework is finished." "No sweets until you finish your vegetables."

Rules are designed to create structure and provide a framework for making decisions. We establish and follow rules because we are confident they will make us healthier, safer, more productive and/or more successful.

Here is a critical question. Have you set rules for how you handle your money?

For most of us the idea of "money rules" is probably an entirely new concept. But, if we think about it, doesn't it make sense that we would want to consciously establish guidelines for how we deal with something as critical to our well being as our finances? Some people will no doubt answer "I have rules, because I have a budget," and they would be partially right, as budgeting could certainly be described as setting "rules" for how much money you intend to spend. But the idea of "money rules," as I define them, go far beyond just budgeting, and really establish the parameters for your entire financial world.

To get started, try answering the following financial questions:

What do you consider acceptable uses for your credit cards? Will you pay your charges in full at the end of every month? How often will you balance your checkbook? By what date each month will you pay your bills in order to ensure they are always on time? Will you put money into savings/investments accounts every single month? How much? Do you want to consistently donate to charity?

It is also important that you decide how you will handle your money in terms of the other people in your life. Are you willing to loan money to family members? How about friends? Knowing your thoughts about these questions in advance, can help keep you from feeling emotional or pressured. This is not to suggest that there will not be a particular situation where you might decide to break one of your rules. However, this will be a conscious and extremely well thought out decision.

Rather than being overly restrictive, money rules can also be hugely beneficial for people in committed relationships. They provide you with a valuable opportunity to avoid many financial conflicts, one example of which might be working together to decide in advance how much money each individual can spend without joint discussion and agreement.

Are you ready to firmly commit to reaching your financial goals? Take the time to write down a list of non-negotiable money rules you are willing to follow, and immediately take any actions needed to put these rules into place.

©2009 Abundance Bound, Inc.

Abundance Bound was created to support actors, artists and creative professionals in the development of financial stability and independence. To learn how to begin the journey towards prosperity, register for the free resources available at

Are You Stuck? Learn to Think Outside the Box!

by Deborah A. Bailey

Have you found yourself stuck, unsure how to find a solution to a problem? We’ve all had those experiences where we have to make a decision or find a way to resolve a situation, but we can’t figure out what action to take.

For one thing, we can have problems finding solutions because we don’t allow ourselves to see possibilities. If we base our future success on what happened in the past, we’ll stay stuck. Instead if we open our minds to opportunities we’ll be able to move past the things that appear to be blocking our progress.

Being able to think out of the box is a major entrepreneurial trait. It involves tapping into your creativity and staying open to new ideas. Just because you have no experience trying something doesn’t mean that it won’t work for you. We can’t be innovative if we’re afraid to make leaps and try things that we’ve never done before.

So what are some ways to use outside-the-box thinking?

• When you’re stuck in a problem, make a list of possible actions you can take. Write down every idea without editing. Solutions can’t be found when our minds are closed or we’re in editing mode. Brainstorming involves considering all possibilities, not just the ones we usually think of.

• Be more creative. Engage in things like painting, sketching and photography. Learn to see your environment in a new way without pressuring yourself to adhere to specific guidelines.

• Try something new each week. Take a different route to go home, have tea instead of coffee, go for a walk instead of turning on the television. It doesn’t matter what you choose, just get out of your comfort zone if just for a little while.

• Create a “mind map” in order to spur your thinking and creativity. If you’re looking for a new product or service to add to your business – or a new career direction – start with one word and map out all of the words and phrases that come to mind. For instance, the word, “writer” can lead to “book,” “author,” “publisher,” “workshop,” etc. Then with each word you can map out other words and phrases until you’ve created your map of ideas.

• Put together a vision board. If you’re familiar with “The Secret” you may already be familiar with the concept of vision boards. Just put together pictures that appeal to you or that display things that you’d like to have or experience. Use your imagination and add pictures and items as you go. You can also do the same thing using a whiteboard and magnets or a cork board and pushpins. Don’t worry about making it look a certain way. Create a colorful and inspirational collage that will spur your imagination.

In order to think outside the box you have to be willing to release pre-conceived notions so that you can step outside of your regular habits. As an entrepreneur, that type of thinking will insure that you’ll continue to evolve and grow while you increase your opportunities for success.

Copyright © 2009 Deborah A. Bailey

Deborah A. Bailey is author of two non-fiction books including, “Think Like an Entrepreneur: Transforming Your Career and Taking Charge of Your Life.”

How to Start Writing Your Book

by Sophfronia Scott

You have an idea for a book. You know it's going to be great. You know people will want to read it, it will help millions, it will be funny, it will be touching, it fill in the blank. Now what? You do a little research, you talk to a few people, you might even sit down and outline the whole book, chapter by chapter. Then...nothing! You don't know what to do, you can't even put a few words down on the computer screen to get you going. You don't know how to begin. You're not alone. I've heard this so often it makes me envision a huge pipeline in writers's brains and it's clogged with all these books wanting to come out. All they need is a little push-from you.

Get Behind the Wheel

Let's pretend your book is a car on a road trip and as the writer, you are the driver. The car is not going to drive itself. Likewise, your book will not write itself so you have to get behind the wheel. That means you have to make the time to sit down and do the work of writing. Easier said than done, right? But on some level you've probably already done it. If you've outlined your book you've done some writing. It's just that many writers then freeze at the prospect of the first sentence. Somehow it's different than just making notes in an outline. People might read this-it has to be good! Well, yes, but not right away. At this point you're just trying to put words on the screen or paper. Not sure what to say? Here's where to start...

Describe a Little of Where You're Going

To get to your first sentence, talk to your reader directly. Start out very conversationlike, explaining why you're writing this book and what the reader will get out of it. If you're writing non-fiction, you can start by describing the problem the reader is having (that way they'll know that you "get" them and understand the situation) and how your book will help them solve it. If you're writing a novel, you will start with telling a simple story, one that will grab the reader's attention and give a taste for the adventure to come.

Here's a great example from Cane River by Lalita Tademy. The first sentence of the book is, "On the morning of her ninth birthday, the day after Madame Francoise Derbanne slapped her, Suzette peed on the rosebushes." Ms. Tademy follows with a brief telling of Suzette leaving her bed and doing the deed then the rest of the first chapter tells how Suzette came to be slapped. Already you know this little girl is a pistol, but she's also a slave. It's intriguing to think where she might be going-and we're along for the ride.

Put The Car In Gear

Quickly set up some action that will pull the reader in even further. In a non-fiction book you can use real life examples that will engage the readers and allow them to see themselves in the book. With a novel, you can throw out a series of complications. In The Prince of Tides, author Pat Conroy has many things happen within the first 20-30 pages: Tom's sister attempts suicide, his wife declares her unhappiness with their marriage and you learn Tom has a difficult relationship with his mother. You can feel the engine of this book revving up.


Now that your story is in motion, keep going! In a non-fiction book, just take the reader step by step through your process or whatever information you're putting forward. With a novel you can pretend that you're telling the story to a friend. You're both enjoying the conversation-you're especially excited to tell your friend about what will happen next. You want to maintain that feeling as you write.

When the Car Stalls

Somewhere along the road you will get stuck. It's happens to all writers. How do you get unstuck? This is where your outline really comes in handy. You go back to it to find out what you're supposed to be doing in the book at the point where you're stuck. Use it to figure out what's not working. Maybe you've written yourself into a corner. Maybe you need to end a plot line or start a new one. Remember, the outline is like your road map. And a good map is essential if you're going to reach your destination or, in your case, finish your book!

© 2009 Sophfronia Scott

Sophfronia Scott is Executive Editor of the Done For You Writing & Publishing Company. Learn what a difference being a published author can make for your business. Get your FREE audio CD, "How to Succeed in Business By Becoming a Bestselling Author" and your FREE online writing and book publishing tips at

Customer Service That Keeps the Cash Coming In

by Ali Brown

Even if you have a sound business plan, smart, dedicated employees, and an award-winning product, all those positive points can be negated by bad customer service.

Companies work hard to bring in customers, but once they have them, not all businesses do everything they can to keep their customers. Sometimes customers leave because they feel ignored or assume that the company doesn't really care about their issue.

Customer service isn't just about making people happy. It's also about dealing with complaints, which are almost inevitable. In order to build (and keep) your customer base: it's critical that companies follow the three C's: communication, courtesy, and criticism.


In order to keep your existing customers, you need to offer extra value and communicate that value clearly so your customers understand why they should choose you over the competition. You might write a blog post or newspaper article about how you're adding value or include a promotion in an email newsletter to your customers. (You do have customer's emails, right?) Maintaining an up-to-date and accurate database of customer's contact information is invaluable. Make sure that their names are spelled correctly, because there's nothing more insulting (and impersonal) than getting an email or postcard addressed to the wrong name. Lastly, be sure to follow through on any promises and thank your customers on a regular basis.


Courtesy costs you nothing, but it pays off far more than an expensive marketing or advertising campaign. When a customer calls, they want to feel that their questions or concerns are being addressed and that you value them as much as (and hopefully more than) their credit cards. Make sure that whoever is answering the phone is polite and friendly. Remind them to smile, because that will naturally make their voice sound more cheerful. Also, be sure your customer service reps call customers by their names (no one likes being treated like a number). If they don't know how to pronounce someone's name, make sure they ask.


Accepting criticism is never easy, but this feedback can help improve your business. The best way to deal with a critical or irate customer is to listen, acknowledge the issue, and let them know what you're doing to fix it. Most successful companies respond to complaints quickly and also track of complaints so they can monitor any patterns or reoccurring issues. Once you discover a mistake, work on preventing it in the future. Of course, there are some customers who will complain regardless of what you do, so sometimes it's best to cut these customers loose and refer them elsewhere. Hopefully these are the exceptions.

Good customer service is all about building relationships and making sure customers come back to you. Offering exceptional service will do more for your company than discounts, sales gimmicks, or price slashing. Yes, they can sometimes be difficult, but they are the lifeblood of your business and you must move mountains for them. As soon as a company stops focusing on their customers, it's curtains.

© 2009 Ali International, LLC

Self-made multimillionaire entrepreneur and Inc. 500 CEO Ali Brown is devoted to creating financial freedom for women globally through the power of entrepreneurship. To learn how to create wealth and live an extraordinary life now, register for her free weekly articles at

To Be or Not To Be...Self-Published

by Sophfronia Scott

I've heard a lot about what writers have to say about the publishing process-and many are disappointed. Usually it's because they had certain expectations that were not met. Whether they knew it or not, there was no way those expectations were going to be met because of the way they chose to have their books published. The way to avoid such disappointment is to be clear about what you want and to make sure you're pursuing an avenue, whether it be self-publishing or traditional publishing, that will get those needs met.

To get clear about your desired outcome, it's best to create a publishing plan for yourself. To do that, you ask yourself a series of questions so you can get a concrete picture of what you want. Make sure you write down your answers!


First, complete this statement: "I want my book to be____________". Here you want to ask yourself, "Do I want my book to be a product I'm going to sell when I get speaking engagements?" or "Do I want it to be a door opener for potential jobs or other business opportunities?" or "Do I want it to be a gift that people are going to pass around?" or "Do I want it to be the first in a long line of my contributions to the literary canon?" What exactly do you want your book to be or to do for you?

I recently spoke to an author/editor working on an inspirational book. When I asked her why she was doing the book, she said she wanted to put a positive message out in the world. Okay, that's great, but she could do that by just printing up a few hundred copies and giving the book away to anyone she met. When I probed further about what she really needs this book to do, she said she wanted it to put her fledgling publishing company on the map and to establish a brand so she could create a series of books, much in the same vein as Chicken Soup for the Soul. With this in mind we were able to focus on marketing, because in order for her book to do these things she would need a very persistent, aggressive marketing campaign to make this happen. If she had only focused on her first answer, she would have made different decisions that may not have helped her get the result she wants.

The Money Question

Next, what do you want financially from your book? Do you want a publisher to give you a huge advance or does the money not really matter because you're looking for prestige? Be honest with yourself. If making a lot of money is important to you, it's going to be hard for a first time author to do that through a traditional publishing house. You would be better off self-publishing your book and then making a big push to sell as many copies as you can. Once you've established yourself with some sales you can always turn to a traditional publisher to help you reach a broader market.

Determined to Go Traditional?

Are you set on having the prestige, not to mention the relatively low-cost experience, of being published by a traditional publishing house like a St. Martin's, Random House or any of the smaller to mid-size companies? If so, how long will you try to find a publisher? If this is your goal, you're going to be focused on doing all the things you need to do to get the attention of a literary agent and/or acquisitions editor. That means developing a following (your platform), taking writing courses if necessary to improve your work, and searching for the right agent to represent you so you can get your foot in the door.

What are you willing to do to find the right agent and publisher? Send out 200 query letters? Are you willing to spend the money to go to conferences to make connections and tell people about your work?

The Numbers

How many books do you want in print and how many do you want to sell? If you sign with a traditional publisher, you may have no say in the matter, but if you self-publish you have the option to go with a company who can print up copies as you need them. Or maybe you don't mind doing a print run of 5,000 copies and storing them in your garage! But what number of sales would you consider a success? 5,000 is considered a really good number in traditional publishing for your first time out. Maybe your goal is to sell 200. Or maybe you're just making this book for your family, so you don't really care how many you sell; you just want your family members to see that you wrote a book. That's okay too!


Next, how will you get those books to the places where they can be sold? How will you get distribution? How many doors are you willing to knock on? What's your budget for this?

The Team

You may try, but if you self-publish you really can't do it all on your own. Publishing will require you to work with others on developing an audience, marketing, distribution, sales and production. Who will be on your team? Are you going to hire a coach, an editor, a proofreader, a book designer, a publicist?

Stick to the Plan

If you answer all these questions clearing and honestly, you will have a comprehensive plan for how your book will come into the world. You'll find the whole process will be easier when you have a plan-it'll help you make decisions when problems or opportunities arise. Then you can tell others a different kind of story: how the publishing process was exciting and enjoyable-and not disappointing-for you.

© 2009 Sophfronia Scott

Sophfronia Scott is Executive Editor of the Done For You Writing & Publishing Company. Learn what a difference being a published author can make for your business. Get your FREE audio CD, "How to Succeed in Business By Becoming a Bestselling Author" and your FREE online writing and book publishing tips at

When Everyone Else Thinks You're Crazy

by Annemarie Segaric

You finally make your decision. You're going to go for it. You're going for the dream.

*You're opening the restaurant you always dreamed of having.
*You're pursuing your passion for art and design.
*You're going freelance and finally leaving the world of 9-5.
*You're taking your "side business" and investing in it to make it your full-time business.
*You're taking a sabbatical from your "good job" and are not sure what you're going to do next.

You're excited! You want to announce it to the world. You're facing some of your biggest fears and finally going for it because...well, you just have no choice, right?

You start telling your friends, family, neighbors, and colleagues. You describe in detail what you're planning, what your dream for your life really is.

You get resistance.

"Are you kidding me? You know most small businesses fail."
"My friend tried freelancing. She couldn't make it. She's temping now."
"Why would you risk your job for something you're not sure you can make happen?"
"I'm not trying to dissuade you, Deborah, but you know you've tried so many things and can't seem to find what makes you happy. What if this is just another one of your random ideas?"
"Why are you in such a hurry? Just wait until things settle down..."

They think they are helping you. You know they're not. You start doubting yourself. That negative inner voice slips in while you weren't looking...

"Who do you think you are? What makes you think you can have such a dream life? You can't make it work. You should be happy with what you have. You don't really have what it takes to make this dream of yours come true..."


When you have a dream or goal you want to accomplish I can guarantee you two things:

1. Others will doubt you.
2. You faith in yourself will be tested.

Many people will not get what you're doing. They won't understand what you're trying to achieve. Stop trying to convince them your ideas are worthy. What's more important is that YOU KNOW for yourself that your ideas are worthy.

For your dream business and life to happen you must believe in yourself no matter what others think. You must look inward and listen to what your intuition is saying. When you're not coming from a place of fear and self-doubt, how do you feel about living your life's passion? Is this what you were put on this earth to do? Get it?

Know without a shadow of a doubt that you WILL succeed. You WILL make it. You could have everyone standing on your side cheering you on but if you're not 110% positive that you can achieve your desires, you will not make it. The one requirement necessary for success above all else is that YOU believe in yourself.

Today's Action Guide

When others start doubting you or your own insecurities start creeping in stop what you're doing and:

1. Get a clear picture in your mind's eye of what you are working towards. Visualize yourself having already succeeded.
2. Feel the feelings of what it's like to be a success.
3. Repeat.

See and feel your success as if it has already happened. Do this over and over and over and over again. Others may think you're crazy but it won't matter anymore. You'll know you're doing the right thing for you!

Annemarie is a nationally respected career transformation expert, motivational speaker, and author who shows people how to leave their jobs and live their life's purpose. Ready to figure out your life's purpose so you can leave your regular job and be your own boss? Visit to learn the 9 secrets to breaking out of your corporate job and doing what you love. Copyright© 2009 Annemarie Segaric, Segaric Coaching, Inc.

Get Your Procedures In Order

by Alba Henderson

Due to my recent challenges, I had to fully rely on my assistant’s and put my trust in others to handle certain aspects of my business affairs and tasks that I normally handle myself.

Thank God that I had procedures in place that made that transition very easy.

For example:

  • My daily routine

  • Following my marketing and networking calendars

  • Procedures for contacting key people and clients and completing priority work

  • Sign ons and passwords

  • Financials

  • Continued work on projects in progress

  • To my wonderful readers who own small businesses, this is a very important task to complete TODAY! Take some time today to evaluate and put this in order, it will ELIMINATE UNNECESSARY stress. Make sure you have a trusted person(s) whom you can rely on. If you do not have person(s), then consider hiring a virtual assistant, it is worth the investment.

    Of course some things will have to remain as is until you are able to tackle yourself, (this is a reality), however, the benefits are, that your business will not suffer, you will not lose any business, hopefully not, and you will keep your clients happy (very important). So, put your procedures book into play, place it where it can be found and go on about your business.

    Alba Henderson

    7 Mantras for Becoming a Money Magnet

    by Ali Brown

    In my Millionaire Protégé Club, many of my members are surprised that I spend just as much time teaching business strategies as I do teaching the correct money mindset. If you are rich, how you think and feel about money is even more important than how you earn it. But if you don't think and feel wealthy, then you'll never get to that point. You need to think rich, feel rich, and take action to achieve the lifestyle you want and to able to support the causes (and people) you care about.

    Here are seven mantras that can help you start on the road to riches.

    1. "I am responsible for my financial success, and no one else." Your financial situation is a direct result of your own actions. If you find yourself blaming other people or circumstances, you are not accepting responsibility. Even worse, you are buying into the notion that you are powerless to change your circumstances. Wealthy people create their own lives – it doesn't just happen for them. You need to believe that, too.

    2. "I learn about making money from wealthy people." If you take advice from someone who is struggling to make ends meet, then chances are, you may find yourself in that situation, too. If, on the other hand, you look to successful mentors who have proven they know how to make and manage their money, then you could rise to their level.

    3. "I take good care of my money." If you can't manage the money you have, it's unlikely that the universe will bring you more. Your money management system doesn't have to be complicated – a notebook, pen, and calculator are all you need to get started. Ignoring your bills won't help you achieve wealth, but creating a plan for paying off debts will get you on the right track.

    4. "I see opportunities in everything." While some people see roadblocks and risks that prevent them from taking action, you need to see the opportunities. Successful companies like Disney and Trader Joe's have flourished during difficult economic times, and you can, too, if you know how to recognize opportunities.

    5. "I play to win big." Small thinking leads to small bank accounts. Big thinking leads to big money. Instead of making it your goal to earn a "comfortable" living, get out of your comfort zone and set higher goals for yourself.

    6. "I love to receive–especially money." Learning to accept gifts can help you learn to accept money. Never apologize for your pricing. Charge what you know you are worth and don't be shy about asking for payment. You deserve to be paid upfront or at least on time!

    7. "I enjoy giving money to others." Tithing–the act of giving back to worthy people and organizations–is an important part of the money cycle. When I received a thank you card from a past client with a tithe of three $100 bills, I immediately left the other for the hotel maid. Giving to someone else feels good!

    Follow these seven mantras and the money will follow, too.

    © 2009 Ali International, LLC

    Self-made multimillionaire entrepreneur and Inc. 500 CEO Ali Brown is devoted to creating financial freedom for women globally through the power of entrepreneurship. To learn how to create wealth and live an extraordinary life now, register for her free weekly articles at

    What's Wrong with Selling?

    By Deborah A. Bailey

    When I speak to entrepreneurs (and to professionals considering starting a business) usually the topic of selling will come up. I don't know many people who will admit to liking it or even having much respect for it. That's probably because we tend to have the idea that selling is a negative thing to do. We may think that it's about forcing people to buy things they'd rather not - similar to what happens when telemarketers call you just when you've sat down to dinner. Even when you tell them that you're not interested, they're not taking "no" for an answer.

    Though that is an extreme example, I think there is a deeper reason why selling has such a negative connotation. How many of us have been brought up to believe that we shouldn't blow our own horn? Usually being humble and self-effacing is held is much higher regard. This can stop us from talking about what we can do for our clients. If you're uncomfortable talking about the value you offer, or if you have low self esteem, you won't believe that your product or service can be of help to someone else.

    We are bombarded all the time with messages about products and services. It seems that someone is always trying to get us to buy something. At times it may feel that they aren't necessarily caring about our needs as much as they care about getting our money. For that reason a business person may to believe that in order to sell, they have to be overbearing, deceptive or manipulative to achieve their ends.

    In truth, none of that is really true. If you are solving a problem for your clients, then you won't have to force them to buy what you're selling. If you are connected with your target market, and really want to solve their problems (because you know what they are) then closing the sale won't be the same as forcing a sale.

    Selling by forcing yourself on anyone and everyone is not necessary. Selling through building relationships, solving problems and giving your clients what they want will be a win for you and for the person buying your product. Believe in yourself and in what you are providing, and you won't have to fear making the sale.

    Copyright © 2009 Deborah A. Bailey

    Deborah A. Bailey is author of two non-fiction books including, “Think Like an Entrepreneur: Transforming Your Career and Taking Charge of Your Life.”

    Ever Manage Annoying Employees? Read This to Learn How to Handle Them!

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    by Kristin Marquet

    Dealing with difficult people in our personal lives is different then dealing with them in our professional lives, especially when we are the supervisor or manager.

    Difficult employees or co-workers usually have an excuse for everything; they are late, they leave early, they never get their work completed on time, and if it is completed on time, it is usually sub-par, they ask questions about very trivial things, they harass us and never leave us alone, they do not pay attention to details and get projects mixed up, they are forgetful and they constantly challenge us on ridiculous things.

    In addition, the thing that really upset us was they were rude to a customer or client or they embarrassed us at a meeting.

    Have you ever worked with a co-worker that had those qualities? I have many times.

    There are a few ways to handle problematic employees and co-workers.

    Never ignore employees’ comments, concerns or requests - Never ignore them and think the problem is going to go away because it can lead to progressive problems and create more problems in the long run. As managers and supervisors, we need to guide and inspire our employees to perform the best they can. Thus, if there is a problem, confront it before it festers into a large dispute.

    Be proactive and find out what the problems are - Being proactive when we spot problems will certain resolve it before we give it a chance to escalate into something that causes irreparable damage. Many managers will let problems go because they don’t want to be viewed as the bad person as many employees will. However, as managers and supervisors, it is our responsibility to take the appropriate action and resolve whatever problems our employees are having.

    Investigate all sides of the story - If an employee complains about another employee, investigate the problem. Talk to one another personally and hear both sides of the story. After hearing both sides of the story, develop a few different strategies to resolve the problems. Everyone will become much more productive after any bad feelings are reconciled.

    Help employees get back to work and be more productive - Once a difficult employee understands his/her disruptive and difficult behavior, helping them get back to work will make the final work product better. It is very important to coach the employee on good behavior. If the employee has been coached for a certain amount of time and the behavior is still not up to par, then it might be time to consider terminating employment.

    Probation and termination - Placing the employee on probation should help him or her identify and resolve bad behavior. If the problem can’t be resolved and the employee continually causes problems, termination may be the only option.

    Most employees would be willing to listen to our feedback, especially in times of high unemployment.

    With a no B.S. attitude, Kristin Marquet is the founder and managing director of Creative Development Agency (formerly award-winning firm, Marquet Media). Kristin also develops, manages, and implements various internal and external communication and social media initiatives. With a strong eye for creating memorable brands and a diverse range of knowledge, Kristin provides strategic counsel to clients interested in developing successful internal and external communication programs across all media platforms.

    Kristin Marquet is a regular contributor to the Secrets of Success blog. 

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    Even before the economy took a turn, Paula Pollock saw that most upper level marketing managers spent less than 10% of their time actually creating marketing that brings in prospects. The Pollock Marketing Group takes on the entire marketing role for these businesses. Paula also offers self-motivated businesses products to create functional marketing strategies and plans, producing tangible results that convert into sales. In between these, Pollock Marketing Group accepts a few finite projects each month.

    With over twenty years of corporate sales and marketing experience, Paula offers knowledge and value that few can match. Resources, information and free marketing tips are available at Visit Paula's website at

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    Bonnie Marcus, M.Ed., CEC, is a Certified Executive Coach, motivational speaker, and radio show host. Her weekly show, Women Mean Business, airs live on the VoiceAmerica Business channel Tuesdays 2pm Eastern. The show explores how women can thrive in the business world and features advice from experts on the key issues and challenges women face in their careers.

    As the founder and principal of Women’s Success Coaching, Bonnie’s specialty is helping women in business achieve success and maximize their potential. She assists women with promoting themselves effectively in order to advance their careers and grow their businesses.

    With 20+ years of sales and management experience, Bonnie has an extensive business background including VP of Sales at several national companies and CEO of a national healthcare company. She has held executive positions in startup companies and Fortune 500 companies.

    Bonnie is well known for her motivational speaking and innovative workshops. She received a BA from Connecticut College and a M.Ed. from New York University.
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    How to Stop Living in Fear

    By Deborah A. Bailey

    "There are only two ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle." - Albert Einstein

    The other day I got an email from a gentleman named, Tom. He asked me for advice about looking for a new job. He's unemployed and money is running low, but he's ready to make positive changes in his life.

    How much courage does it take to transform your life after it's come undone? Having been through this situation myself more than once, I'd say it takes quite a lot. That's the difference between those people who survive and those who thrive. Survival is going from one crisis to the next, always shocked and a little surprised that you made it. Thriving is a totally different experience.

    When you thrive your life isn't just endless journey through anxiety and insecurity. Yes, things do happen and life is not always a big bowl of cherries. I'm not saying that you'll never be hurt or disappointed. But I am saying that how you react to those things will determine your life experience. We can spend a lifetime blaming this one or that one, being a victim of circumstances and believing that someone else took our stuff. Lots of people do it everyday. If that appeals to you, I certainly won't discourage it. However, if you love your life no matter what - you are thriving. That's something that no one can ever take away from you.

    At the end of Tom's email, he admitted to being uneasy about the changes he was about to make. He acknowledged his fears, but then he said he wanted a better life and was going to take the steps to get it. From the outside his life may not look very attractive, but with that admission he's already made the move from surviving into thriving. I'm excited for him, and I'm looking forward to hearing about his progress.

    How about you - are you ready to make the move? If so, here are some steps you can take.

    1. Get clear of negative people and influences. If someone is always telling you what can't be done or how awful everything is, you won't benefit from being in that energy.

    2. Take some quiet time everyday. Whether you call it meditating or being alone with your thoughts, take time for yourself.

    3. Keep learning new things. Once you decide you know it all, you will never grow beyond that point.

    4. Write down your ideas and your goals. There's something about writing them down that makes them real.

    5. Laugh. Not only is laughing healthy, but it's much more attractive as well. Who would you rather be with - someone who laughs or someone who's always grumpy?

    6. Love yourself, a lot.

    7. Embrace life. Don't wait for some terrible event to occur before you begin to appreciate what you have.

    I've been in survival mode and in thriving mode, and I can tell you that thriving is much better. No, fear doesn't completely go away, but it stops being a way of life. We all have the power to go from surviving to thriving, and in the end it's up to us to make it happen.

    Copyright © 2009 Deborah A. Bailey

    Deborah A. Bailey is author of two non-fiction books including, “Think Like an Entrepreneur: Transforming Your Career and Taking Charge of Your Life .”
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