Living Outside the Box

by Deborah A Bailey

Lately I’ve been going through a few changes. The shifts occurring all around us have forced many people to look at things differently. It’s certainly no time to be complacent or to long for the bygone days.

Particularly if you are in business, you must think outside the box (which is something a lot of people are finding out right now). You can’t stay safe and build a business, nor can you build a successful business while you’re stuck in old thinking.

What do I mean about “old’ thinking? I mean the kind that is made up of “shoulds” and “don’ts” and “can’ts.” It’s made up of blockages that keep people doing the same things over and over while they expect a different result. It’s keeping a closed mind and even worse, a closed heart.

You see, stepping out of the box involves a lot of risk. A box can be confining, but it also can be a sanctuary for those who live in fear. In a box you know how far you can move before you hit a wall. There are no surprises and certainly nothing new to learn. As long as you’re in the box you can live a relatively predictable existence. You get to define everything – it’s good or bad, right or wrong.

How do you get out of the box?

First of all, release blame, judgment and the need to be right. Stop beating yourself up over what you should have done or might have done in the past. Fear can keep us boxed in when we realize that we’re about to step into a new experience. We have so much discomfort over losing control that we’d rather stay in the box than to embrace (and take responsibility for) our freedom.

In the end it’s up to us to determine what is more important. We can either stay stuck inside the box, or seize the opportunity to live a purposeful life outside of it.

Copyright © 2010 – 2011  Deborah A. Bailey

Originally published on the Soul of an Entrepreneur blog

Deborah A. Bailey is author of several fiction and non-fiction books including, “Think Like an Entrepreneur: Transforming Your Career and Taking Charge of Your Life .” She's also the creator and host of Women Entrepreneurs Radio, a weekly podcast.
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Zsa Zsa said...

"In the end it’s up to us to determine what is more important." -- So true. Whether we stay in the box or seize opportunities, it's really in our hands. We just have to find the courage to do the right thing and take risks!

Deb Bailey said...

Hi ZsaZsa!
It's so much easier to stay "safe." But when we are open to taking risks we can get to what we really desire. Thanks for your comments!

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