Author Q&A: Happiness Happens by Emily Capuria

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About the Book

In Happiness Happens, author Emily Capuria, LISW-S, CHHC, presents a 10-week process of self-discovery to teach you how to align who you are and what you want with how you live because this is how happiness happens.

About the Author

Emily Capuria, LISW-S, CHHC, is an author, speaker and coach who is passionate about redefining happiness and showing people how accessible it is once you shift your definition and reconnect with who you truly are. She is the creator of the Laugh More, Live Louder Course which helps people to map out what’s next and take the steps to make it happen. She is also the founder of Balance & Thrive, a business that offers a holistic approach to living a happy, fulfilling life. Learn more at

Deb Bailey: Welcome to the Secrets of the Success blog, Emily. Please share what Happiness Happens is about.

Emily Capuria: This book is about stripping back all of the layers and b.s. that have ultimately blocked you from being yourself and living a life that feels truly happy and fulfilling.

Deb: What are some of the important points in your book?

Emily: The points are that:
• Life can be messy, imperfect and hard sometimes AND you can still be happy. It all coexists together. It’s not one or the other – you don’t have to choose. You just have to be willing to let it all be what it is.
• You can’t positive think your way through some of the really hard things life throws your way – you don’t actually have to. You just have to decide to not let it be all consuming -- be willing to see what’s working too.
• Who you are and what you want matter. Your happiness matters. You have to be the one to live that truth. You’re the only one who can do that for you.
• Your happiness is not conditional on life going as planned or you doing things perfectly. So, be who you are and live your life on your own terms.

Deb: Any challenges in writing this book?

Happiness Happens by Emily Capuria
Emily: Yes, lots of challenges from my editor going MIA to not fully understanding the book metadata. The learning curve is steep with a lot to learn. I know so much more now and I will definitely do things differently next time! But I also have no regrets.

I set my mindset that this book is a learning experience for me and I chose to focus on a longer term marketing plan vs. a new release launch. This helped me to get the book out into the world and not feel pressured to do everything all at once.

Deb: Since you are also a business owner, what advice would you give to women entrepreneurs who are just starting out?

Emily: It’s okay to not have all of the answers before you begin. Give yourself permission to make mistakes and figure it out as you go. Just take that first step, then the next one, and keep on moving.

If you can do that, you’ll end up somewhere – probably better than where you imagined in the first place!

Deb: What do you think are the top 3 traits an entrepreneur must have?

Emily: 1. Perseverance – you’ve got to keep showing up even when it’s hard, even when it doesn't go as planned, and even when there’s zero evidence it’s all going to work out. Show up, believe in yourself, do your best, trust and repeat.

2. A willingness to learn and make mistakes. Don’t expect to know everything, and be willing to unlearn what you think you know and to learn things that are completely new. This process is one that just naturally includes making mistakes – you’ve got to be willing to make ‘em if you truly want to learn.

3. Focus. Distractions will keep you stuck and spinning your wheels. Know what you’re here to do and why and put your time and attention on the things that help you to do that.

Deb: That's great advice. Do you have a favorite writing environment?

Emily: My office. It’s quiet and peaceful. I love being up there.

Deb: What's your writing routine?

Emily: I’ve had to create a new routine recently which is to get up at 5:30 am which gives me 2 hours to write before my kiddo wakes up. I wouldn’t call myself a morning person so this was a little tough for me to wrap my head around but it’s truly the only way for me to get uninterrupted writing time so I make it happen.

Deb: I'm not a morning person either, and I understand. :) What inspires you to do the work you do?

Emily: The people I meet. So many women are just going through the motions, and when I get to see that moment when they realize it doesn’t actually have to be that way – it’s one of my most favorite things and it’s what inspires me to keep showing up. I had a workshop that didn’t go great recently but there were 3 ladies in there who got a lot out of that experience.

Do I wish everyone could have, yes, of course. So I take the opportunity to learn how to make it better next time but knowing 3 lives were impacted, that’s what fuels me forward and inspires me to keep showing up regardless of how things play out. It also motivates me.

Deb: Where can people find your book?

Emily: At your favorite online retailer including Barnes & Nobel, Books-A-Million, Amazon and Indiebound.

Deb: Who do you think will benefit most from reading Happiness Happens?

Emily: Anyone who feels like they’re just going through the motions and is ready to take some action to create change in their life.

Deb: So happy you could join me today, Emily. Please share your website and social media URLs.

Emily: It was my pleasure, Deb. Here are the links.


5 Office Fit-Out Ideas to Maximise Office Space & Boost Productivity

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by Victoria Hill

Even after hiring the best talents they are underperforming. Sounds familiar? This can be frustrating especially if you are a start-up company. You must be wondering why your employees’ productivity is low.

Well, the physical environment may be the reason for the low output. If the employees are bored, uncomfortable and unhappy, they are likely to underperform. Workplace design and fit-out have become one of the business success factors. Therefore, your office design should be functional and relaxed to boost creativity. Here are some office fit-out ideas for an efficient and productive work environment:

1. Add Some Colour

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If your office is lifeless and dull, do you expect your employees to maintain focus? It is time to ditch the traditional dull office and add some colours to the workspaces. Invigorating colours on the walls will keep those creative juices flowing. However, the trick is in choosing the appropriate colour scheme. You need colours that stimulate ideas and create a relaxing work environment. Blue is excellent for stimulation while shades of yellow and orange spark creativity.

2. Offer a Space for Conversations/Breaks

Create break-out areas for relaxing and brainstorming. Sitting on the desk for several hours has adverse effects on employees’ productivity. Encourage your staff to take breaks every couple of hours to unwind. Your office interior design should incorporate break rooms, lounge areas, kitchen, and conference rooms. The furniture and décor of the rooms should be inviting and comfy. A few minutes of socialising and re-energising will improve your staffs’ focus.

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3. Buy Quality Furniture

Investing in ergonomic furniture goes a long way in ensuring the good health of your employees. Sitting for prolonged periods isn’t good for the neck and lower back. The discomfort and pain lower concentration level. Getting adjustable chairs not only reduces back injuries but also improve productivity. With an ergonomic chair, workers can maintain a good posture. Therefore, they can work for extended hours without discomfort. Incorporating standing desks is one of the office design and fit-out ideas that can keep your staff energised.

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4. Check Office Lighting

Apart from causing fatigue, poor lighting can result in headaches and depression. Sufficient lighting creates the illusion of a spacious and bright office. Your workers’ mood also depends on your office lighting. Let in as much natural light as possible. Keep your windows open and clean to let in sunlight. However, if you don’t have enough windows, artificial lighting works just fine.

Task lighting ensures a well-lit workspace that is kind to the eyes. Therefore, employees can work for long hours without getting headaches. Also, the brightness level is adjustable. Consider installing task lighting to all the work desks for sufficient lighting. Shun overhead lights they create a dull work environment.

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5. Plan Space Layout Well

Office layout reflects your company's structure. Irrespective of the size of the office, the layout should allow smooth and efficient flow of work. If your employees work in teams and need to communicate regularly, an open arrangement is ideal. The plan will enable the sharing of ideas and high productivity. You can use partitions to improve privacy and have common areas for meetings.

Despite its benefits, an open layout may not be ideal for work that requires concentration. The noise can be distracting leading to low output. Private offices are perfect when one wants to focus on individual work. To maximise productivity, you need to go for a diverse office design fit-out by incorporating different work stations. You can have quiet work rooms and collaborative spaces.

A lively work environment keeps your staff happy and motivated. The work environment should stimulate creativity if you want to achieve high standards of output. Therefore, you should strive to give your employees the best work environment for optimum productivity.

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About the Author: Victoria Hill has been writing as a ghostwriter ever since she was in college. Her favorite topics are human development, business communication, modern and pop art, minimalism, and self-development.

"Develop Healthy Habits for a Balanced & Healthy Mind, Body & Spirit" with Lifestyle Entrepreneur Sharon Levy on Women Entrepreneurs Radio

Lifestyle Entrepreneur Sharon Levy
Show #492

Topic: "Develop Healthy Habits for a Balanced & Healthy Mind, Body & Spirit" 

Sharon Levy, "Lady Tea," a Certified TEA Consultant & Health Stylist, TV Personality, CEO and Founder of Taking Tea InStyle, a holistic tea boutique, uses tea as a means to connect people while empowering them about the importance of self care so they can achieve optimal health. healthy life.

In September 2018, a large polyp was found after a colonoscopy, which doctors suspected may be cancerous; so on November 15, 2018; surgery was performed to remove it.

On December 3, 2018, Ms. Levy was diagnosed with Stage 1 Rectal Cancer. After hearing the news, she knew that her life would be changed forever. Ms. Levy felt that God must have a plan for her. As she thought about this news, she came to the conclusion that it was a blessing in disguise. She knew she had to get her life back on track and work on creating a stronger and more meaningful relationship with God while healing her Mind and Body.

In October, before her cancer diagnosis, Ms. Levy vowed to completely change her lifestyle to improve her health. Her doctors advised her to do Chemo and Radiation to ensure no cancer cells were left behind, but she refused to accept this traditional method, so she researched and prayed to find the best natural remedies and holistic centers that would assist with her healing.

To Date, Mr. Levy has: „X Developed a closer relationship with God „X Since October 2018, she lost 40 pounds and dropped 2 pants sizes „X Lowered her Blood Sugar from 97 ¡V 79 „X Increased her energy and stamina Now more than ever, she is passionate about sharing her story and knowledge with individuals to make an impact in their lives and motivate them to change their mindset to live a healthy lifestyle without unnecessary pain and suffering.

Ms. Levy is available for Speaking Engagements on the following topics:
Achieving Optimal Health by Changing Your Mindset
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Why Trusting Your Gut is Imperative

by Chris Atley

This week I almost said yes to something I was having a strong gut feeling to not do. I knew exactly in the moment that this was a “gut feel” and that the decision was an absolute no.

AND I still almost said yes! At least in the past the reason for not following it would be more around not knowing for sure if it was a “gut feel”, but I have come to learn fortunately what specifically that feeling feels like.

Even still, our ego can be so convincing about doing the reverse with showing us all kinds of reasons to not trust our gut. Thankfully my husband has learned to trust my gut – maybe better then me sometimes – and knew as a result this also was a no and reminded me of my instincts.

The reasons our ego presents us with are sneaky and appealing, and look something like this:

  • It will save time
  • It will save money or provide more money
  • It’s more comfortable to not say anything
  • It’s easier
  • Here’s the kicker though….it always comes back to bite us in the A$$. Think about all of the times you’ve said yes to something knowing it wasn’t the right thing to do. It never works out the way you want it to or thought it would. All of those reasons I mentioned above, do not pan out, and we usually end up kicking ourselves later. When we go against our gut, it ends up causing a lot of drama and headaches instead.

We must be strong!

Remember those experiences you’ve had when you try to talk yourself into it next time. Knowing it’s not worth it. It might feel glamorous up front, but rest assured it will end up in anything but glamour.

Let’s also get clear on what that feeling even feels like. Think about a time again when you knew deep down it was the wrong decision, but you did it anyway and it came back to bite you. Where did you feel that knowing in your body? Now clearly define the feeling (we’re going somewhere with this I promise). What size is the feeling? Is there a colour associated with the feeling? Is the colour transparent or solid?

Now contrast it with the part of you that talked yourself into it. Where did you feel that part in your body? What size is the feeling? Is there a colour associated with the feeling? Is the colour transparent or solid?

Now you know the difference.

The difference between what that instinctual knowing feels like, and what it feels like to talk yourself into it something instead.

When you have that gut feeling you must then practice trusting it. Follow the guidance knowing if you don’t it will back fire. Strengthen that action.

Also know, that this is the same feeling you will have when the universe shows you how to create your goals and dreams. You will experience and idea or opportunity and will “know” this is the right way, even if your mind is trying to talk you out of it. It’s all about taking that inspired action anyway.

It’s pretty cool.

Written by Success Speaker & Coach Chris Atley, CEO of Chris Atley LLC ~ Decisions by Design. For complimentary success tips for business and life, please visit

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6 Concrete Ways to Invest in Yourself and "Spring Forward" in 2019

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by Laura Gayle, Business Woman Guide

Spring is the season of new beginnings. As the earth comes back to life after its winter slumber, why not participate in the new beginnings, yourself? Now is a terrific time to embark on change, especially when it comes to your professional life.

Think you’re ready for a career-altering change? Here are six concrete ways to invest in yourself and “spring forward” in 2019.

1. Pursue professional development

Investing in yourself is always a great start to a new season – and a new you. Whether you’re about to graduate college and start your first “real” job, looking for a promotion, or wanting to take a new direction in your established career, pursuing professional development is always a good place to start. Consider these options:

  • Take some classes – Many organizations and schools, such as community colleges, offer non-credit continuing education classes to help you expand your knowledge or learn new skills.
  • Sign up to volunteer – Volunteering is a great way to learn a new work-related skill or gain additional experience to add on your resumé.
  • Connect with a career coach or mentor – Whether you’re looking to move upward on the proverbial career ladder or start your own business, finding a career coach or mentor is a solid way to “spring” ahead.
  • Earn a new certification – Certifications are a great way to expand your skills and your earning potential. If you're an IT professional, take a look at the top-earning certifications for 2019 and consider pursuing one or more of them.

Many businesses are realizing the benefits of offering employees professional development opportunities. It not only gives their staff new skills to use in their jobs, it also increases retention rates, boosts morale, increases job satisfaction, and improves efficiency. If you don’t have the cash to pay for your own career development measures, see what interesting options your company might offer. It’s a win-win endeavor.

2. Expand your professional network circle

Meeting other professionals in your industry (and even beyond!) is a great way to “spring forward” this year. Here are some ways you can do this.

  • Attend conferences – Conferences are a great way to learn new things and mingle with other like-minded people.
  • Book a booth or table at a trade show – Trade shows are a great way to promote your business and network with other professionals. Find a quality event and start your trade show planning well in advance to make a good impression.
  • Get new business cards – Create a clever design and be sure to always keep some of your new cards handy so you can let people know who you are and how they can reach you. Or if you don’t do cards, create a brief “video card” that you can put on your LinkedIn and other social media profiles, so people can find you digitally.

Remember, networking should be organic and natural. If you try to force it too hard, you won’t succeed. Also, be sure to put a strong focus on offering to help other people.

3. Clean up your online presence

Did you know, according to a 2018 survey by CareerBuilder, 70 percent of employers check social media when screening potential candidates? Furthermore, 43 percent check in on their employees’ social media profiles. Spring is a great time to clean up, and that includes your online presence.

  • Google yourself to see what pops up, then remove anything you can that might be embarrassing or inappropriate.
  • Delete any posts or photos on each of your social media accounts that could be viewed as inappropriate, unprofessional, or unflattering.
  • Disconnect with anyone who leaves inappropriate comments on your page or posts.
  • Do a privacy checkup and make sure you use the tools provided by each network.

If you don’t have a strong professional presence online, now is a good time to change that. Once you remove any digital dirt and have your social media nice and tidy, create a personal page, build an online portfolio, or launch a website.

4. Consider relocation

Looking for a bigger change in life this spring? Maybe a new job or home is in order. If your job has become too mundane or you’re struggling financially because you’re shelling out too much money each month for rent, relocation might be just the change you need.

Many cities across the United States have thriving job markets and don’t come with an expensive cost of living. For instance, Omaha has a vibrant startup culture and tech community, but the cost of living and rent in Omaha are below the national average. Other cities worth checking out include  Minneapolis, Des Moines, Boise, and Salt Lake City.

5. Invest in yourself

Investing in yourself always brings positive change. Here are some ways you can gift yourself with a little time, money, and effort this year.

  • Get a new wardrobe to improve your professional appearance.
  • Attend yoga or meditation classes for relaxation.
  • Join a gym or exercise class to get in shape.

Additionally, while retirement seems way off, experts say it’s never too early to start saving. So why not invest in your future by opening an IRA, adding to your 401(K), or exploring other savings options? Start or build upon a nest egg for yourself this year.

6. Start a side hustle to boost your income

Say you’ve calculated your taxes and a refund is coming your way. Why not launch a side business to boost your monthly income?

  • Consider your options – What kinds of skills or hobbies do you possess that can be turned into a business?
  • Buy equipment – Purchase a new computer, peripherals, or mobile devices to help get yourself started.
  • Software and apps – Explore to see if any great productivity tools are out there that would help augment your new startup.

If running a business from your home isn’t quite your style, consider other types of options where you can be your own boss. For instance, buying a vacation rental property is a lucrative investment that can lead to a nice revenue stream and a sense of independence.

Spring has arrived. The flowers are coming back to life, vegetable gardens are being planted, and the birds are flying north for the summer. There is no time better to spread your own wings and see what seeds you can plant to nurture yourself, your career, and your life. Make 2019 great — and, before you know it, you'll be soaring into an even brighter 2020.


45 Quotes from Female Leaders to Inspire Success

Challenges always bring an opportunity to grow. Whether it's our personal or professional life, we learn the most from overcoming fear and failure. It’s during these times we realize our strengths and our capacity to learn new skills. Especially for female entrepreneurs, the journey to success brings many obstacles. Luckily, there are endless female mentors and role models to look to for inspiration.

These women are entrepreneurs, scientists, writers, athletes, and successful businesswomen. They shed their insights on owning success, overcoming failure, staying motivated, and even achieving financial goals. In the company of other great women, our potential is limitless.

Quotes About Success

  • “We need to get women to the point where they aren’t apologizing. It’s time to take ownership in our success.” – Tory Burch, Fashion Designer and Businesswoman
  • “When I was younger, I was a bit of an achievement addict, viewing success like a ladder. I loved the high of climbing to the next rung to get a new title or raise. Today, I look at it more like a mountain with lots of beautiful peaks and valleys that are all totally worthy of my time.” – Michelle Lee, Editor-in-Chief, Allure Magazine
  • “It’s easy to kill an idea with a no, but the smartest people in the room learn how to say yes and make it work.” – Lisa Gersh, CEO of Goop
  • “Be creative, not perfect. I’d rather an entry-level employee suggest a disruptive idea…than try and be organized in a boring spreadsheet.” – Whitney Wolfe, Founder and CEO of Bumble

  • “I think success needs to be defined on your own terms. If you look to outside sources (friends, media, the internet) for constant validation, you will never feel fulfilled.” – Jaclyn Johnson, Author and CEO of Create and Cultivate
  • “You can do anything you want, just not everything. Pick what you want, work harder than most to get it, and believe in yourself.” – Daina Trout, Co-founder of Health-Ade Kombucha
  • “Don’t let anyone rob you of your imagination, your creativity, or your curiosity. It’s your place in the world; it’s your life. Go on and do all you can with it, and make it the life you want to live” – Mae Jemison, Engineer and NASA Astronaut

Quotes About Failure

  • “Do not be afraid! Do not worry about fear of failure and fear of what others think.” – Bola Sokunbi, Clever Girl Finance
  • “When you take risks you learn that there will be times when you succeed and there will be times when you fail and both are equally important.” – Ellen DeGeneres, Comedian and TV Host
  • “Failing is a crucial part of success. Every time you fail and get back up, you practice perseverance, which is the key to life. Your strength comes in your ability to recover.” – Michelle Obama, Former FLOTUS
  • “There is no innovation and creativity without failure. Period.” – Brené Brown, Research Professor

  • “I think it's great to be flawed. I am hugely flawed, and I like it this way. That's the fun of life. You fall, get up, make mistakes, learn from them, be human and be you.” – Priyanka Chopra, Actress, Singer, and Film Producer
  • “You won’t know until you try. Create without fear. If you mess up, who cares? You learn and move on.” – Michelle McHargue, Talent Partner of Cowboy Ventures
  • “Most of the reason we don't do things is because we're afraid to fail. I just made a decision one day that I was not going to do things in my life because of fear.” – Sara Blakely, CEO of SPANX

Quotes About Motivation

  • “Whatever the problem, be part of the solution. Don’t just sit around raising questions and pointing out obstacles.” – Tina Fey, Actress, Comedian, and Writer
  • “I am lucky that whatever fear I have inside me, my desire to win is always stronger” – Serena Williams, Professional Tennis Player
  • “Whether you work for yourself or others, there will be moments when you feel unhappy or stuck. You can't control everything around you, but in those moments, remind yourself that you are powerful, and that even small, strategic moves can create big shifts for the better.” – Trae Bodge, Lifestyle Journalist and TV Commentator
  • “Even if your dream seems unattainable, you can achieve it if you stay focused, driven, and diligent.” – Rebecca Minkoff, Fashion Designer

  • "I learned to push the envelope when it comes to asking questions or making requests. And if you hear 'that's not possible,' then to ask 'what is possible,' instead of just saying thank you and leaving.” – Emily Weiss, Founder of Glossier
  • “It’s really hard to start a business if you don’t care about it. At the margin, when it’s 2am, it has to be that passion that pushes you forward.” – Katrina Lake, Founder of Stitch Fix
  • “Remember that your time is your most valuable asset, so think about if what you're doing is really what you want to spend your time on, think about if it's getting you to a place that you want to go in the long run. If it's not, go do something else.” – Shan-Lyn Ma, Co-founder of Zola
  • “If you're not where you want to be in life, don't get discouraged. Remember where you are is not your destiny.” – Sharita Humphrey, Financial Educator

Quotes About Leadership

  • “A true diva is graceful, and talented, and strong, and fearless and brave and someone with humility.” – Beyoncé Knowles-Carter, Singer and Songwriter
  • “You need to have unbound enthusiasm for what you’re building. Energy is contagious, so your team and everyone you interact with feels it.” – Tyler Haney, Founder of Outdoor Voices
  • "People respond well to those that are sure of what they want. What people hate most is indecision. Even if I'm completely unsure, I'll pretend I know exactly what I'm talking about and make a decision." – Anna Wintour, Editor-in-Chief of Vogue
  • “When you exude confidence, others will naturally follow you. Once you have built that self-confidence, make it your priority to lead by example.” – Kendra Scott, Fashion and Accessories Designer

  • “Just because you are CEO, don't think you have landed. You must continually increase your learning, the way you think, and the way you approach the organization.” – Indra Nooyi, CEO of PepsiCo
  • "I learned to always take on things I'd never done before. Growth and comfort do not coexist.” – Ginni Rometty, CEO of IBM
  • “It’s hard to juggle being a businessperson with being a creative person. You have to organize yourself.” – Vera Wang, Fashion Designer

Quotes About Money

  • “The most important aspect of keeping your money is being aware of how much of it you are spending.” – Tiffany Aliche, The Budgetnista
  • “Financial independence is about more than dollars in the bank…it’s about you living your best life now and replacing the ‘have to dos’ with the ‘get to dos.’” – Naseema McElroy, Financially Intentional
  • “Money follows art. Money wants what it can’t buy: class and talent. And remember, while there’s a talent for making money, it takes real talent to know how to spend it.” – Candace Bushnell, Author and TV producer

  • “A big part of financial freedom is having your heart and mind free from worry about the what-ifs of life.” – Suze Orman, Author and Financial Advisor
  • “Life-fulfilling work is never about the money—when you feel true passion for something, you instinctively find ways to nurture it.” – Eileen Fisher, Clothing Designer
  • “Rarely is happiness about the materialistic items. Those are awesome to have and money is something you need to sustain yourself, but for me I’ve realized money doesn’t make someone happy.” – Ellen Bennett, Chef and Founder of Hedley & Bennett

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Are you making the right or wrong decision?

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by Chris Atley

So how do you know when you are making empowered decisions that are in alignment with your goals and dreams?

Well, it takes becoming very aware of what your goals and dreams are to begin with, and even more aware of when your subconscious mind will try to throw you off course.

Here is a really clear cut example.

A client of mine has a really big goal she would like to achieve. She has also learned how important self care is – specifically for her this entails eating well, exercising regularly, and sleeping at least 8 hours a night. She has learned that things flow easier when she takes care of herself in this way. She is happier, more inspired, and works SMARTER with the time she has. As opposed to staying up until the wee hours of the morning grinding it out trying hard to make things happen. It’s not a coincidence when she takes care of herself in this way, her business flows :-)

I love these kind of success stories because it just proves how pivotal taking care of ourselves is. Does it mean you don’t put in the time? NO. But you do show up in a much more impactful and powerful way, which leads to better results! YAY!!!

Now back to making decisions.

Because her old pattern is to work herself to the bone, her subconscious mind wants to tell her to stay up late and keep working. She is super inspired, so her subconscious mind makes a valid point. Why not put in the extra time when I’m on a roll??

When checking in with one of my favourite questions, “is this decision taking me closer to my goal?”, at first glance it is. Putting in the time can’t be a bad thing right?


If we follow this all the way through, we know continuing this pattern of staying-up late and not getting enough sleep, actually leads to burnout. And then resentment. And then doubt. And then wanting to throw in the towel on the whole thing.

So in fact it’s taking her farther from her goal.

Is it okay to stay up late a night or two here or there? Sure. But it’s when she gets sucked back into that pattern, that story that this is how she will get results, is when it becomes a block.

So back to making empowered decisions.

We want to get clear on what our big goals and dreams are to begin with. What ideas light you up and get you excited? What vehicle are you excited most about to deliver your product or service? Make the decision from this excited (maybe a little fearful because it’s new) place, but the vibe overall being more so inspired excitement!

These decisions are never wrong.

Sure you might need to course correct and adapt along the way, as the path unfolds and new information is gathered, but if you keep following your heart you won’t be wrong.

As you follow that path, if your subconscious mind tries to talk you out of doing the steps required to bring these dreams and goals to fruition, then you know you have slipped into “wrong” thinking. I prefer disempowered thinking. You’ve taken the bait and the goal is to get you to stop.

The subconscious mind is designed to keep you safe, and growing and stretching to achieve goals does not feel safe. Until you become “comfortable being uncomfortable”, then it has less of a hold, as you have begun to reprogram it.

Remember to also think the entire decision through, i.e. staying up late. At first glance it’s in alignment with the bigger picture, but upon closer analysis, it is designed to create overwhelm thus getting her to stop. Track the decision all the way through, look at the pros and cons both short term and long term, and then make your inspired decision.

Above all else, trust yourself! You will learn when you’re trying to talk yourself out of something that is good for you and your dreams.

Written by Success Speaker & Coach Chris Atley, CEO of Chris Atley LLC ~ Decisions by Design. For complimentary success tips for business and life, please visit

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Encouraging Girls & Empowering Women Entrepreneurs with Author & Lifestyle Entrepreneur Barrett Clemmensen Powell on Women Entrepreneurs Radio

Barrett Clemmensen Powell on Women Entrepreneurs Radio
Show #490

Topic: Encouraging Girls & Empowering Women Entrepreneurs 

Barrett Clemmensen Powell shares:

  • The state of diversity in children's literature in 2019
  • The 7-fold impact of girls and girls of color seeing themselves in books
  • Global networking between women

Barrett Clemmensen Powell is a former professional TV/ radio journalist, who became an author, ordained minister and lifestyle entrepreneur. 

She then combined her education and experience in communication and spiritual care to earn $1M in her first six months as an entrepreneur. While living globally in the USA, Europe and other regions, she soulfully empowers women - through course, coaching and speaking - to live phenomenal lives and create prosperous businesses that reflect their soul purpose. Barrett passionately educates and empowers women to scale their businesses through communication that embraces spiritual clarity, emotional and cultural authenticity, and effective business strategies.

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How to reach your ideal client on social media

by Vala Vincent

Social media is an incredible tool to use that is capable of bringing an endless source of clients to your business. There are so many opportunities both paid and organic, yet, it only seems to work for select few. What’s their secret?

It took me a long time to crack the code. But once I did, I started seeing a huge upswing in my business. I was a higher end photographer. My clients paid 4 figures to get their photos done with me, and this was in the family niche where it is common to pay between $50 and $200. My secret, I knew my ideal client. I understood her very well and I spoke to her, both on my website and on social media.

Every photography business coach said that you must get your prospect on the phone to close the deal if you want to be in my price bracket. I didn’t. I made an email scrip that was so good, I never had to get on the phone. Created with my ideal client’s biggest pain point and solution in mind.

Understanding your target audience immediate need is key to success

In my first business I struggled for a while. It got to a point where I had to make a decision, is this a hobby or a real business. I made the latter decision. It was time to dig my heels in and get real. I got help. I got mentoring in business and social media. I was already technologically adept, and my education became for the first time useful. I got real. This led me from struggling to making an income. Then after a few fellow business owners I had been helping had told me I should become a business coach, and the realization that my clients were getting in the way of my marketing, I made the shift. Not to become a business coach, but a social media coach.

Social media has changed a lot in the last few years. It was easy to get clients from, until it wasn’t. I watched a lot of my fellow photographers go under when Facebook algorithm change came into place. Facebook was no longer giving organic reach to business pages. You now needed to pay. It was a huge hit on so many businesses that relied on Facebook to get clients.

You do not own social media

You see, you don’t own social media. It is a powerful business tool, when used correctly. You should use it as it is intended to be used. As a way to connect with your audience, with the added business goal of building your list. Social media has changed a lot. The purpose of social for business is to be a place to serve your audience, your future clients and your followers. It isn’t the place to advertise in every single post about your product or service. Leave that to the corporations, you know, the ones that are going under left and right.

Here are the steps to take to reach your ideal client on social media

Step #1

Understand your ideal client. Who is your target audience and above all, who do you want to serve? Get into detail. Who are they, give them a name, how is their day like? What do they love, what do they hate, who do they follow, are they readers, listeners or viewers, what are their hobbies, where do they shop and what do they care about?

Back to my photography business, it turns out the biggest issue my client was worried about was that their child would not co-operate and ruin the session. I addressed that in one sentence in my email: “on many occasions I have turned a crying baby not wanting to have anything to do with me and the camera, into a happy baby giving us lots of smiles and great photo’s”. I didn’t make this claim lightly, I had done that on many occasions, and I was confident in my ability to do so. But I nailed it. I even posted before and after photos of toddlers on the floor throwing a fit, and the smiling wall art quality photos I ended up getting later.

Find your client’s biggest pain point and address it. This is the core of your posting topic.

Step #2

Understand how social media works. It is a place where people hang out, socialize with friends and family. Voice their opinion on things, get support, get entertained and get educated. All platforms are different with different needs. Facebook for example should be treated like you are talking to your friends in your living room while Linked-in is more professionally inclined, YouTube is great for DIY or educational content and Instagram is fantastic for visual businesses such as restaurants, artists, tourism and more.

Just because the gurus out there are saying Instagram is the fastest growing platform that every business owner needs to be on, doesn’t mean your business should be there. If you are a finance consultant, you probably have no reason being on Instagram. Make sure you are putting your efforts into the right place, and always tailor your content with the goal of making a connection.

Step #3

Be consistent. I always advice quality over quantity. Don’t be on 4 different platforms at the same time when you clearly don’t have time for it. Pick one or two, then once you can afford to hire someone to do this for you, that’s when you expand.

Create a schedule. Pick 5 different topics based on your ideal client’s pain points. Make posts and other content based on that. Make the commitment of posting on your chosen platform at least once a day, 5 days a week. Out of those 5, only 1 of your posts should be a sales post.

Step #4

Get clear on your client’s journey. Remember earlier when I said that social media has changed in the last few years? This is where most businesses fail. They don’t create a journey for their clients. We are in such a hurry to get the sale, that we forget that all we are doing is pissing off our audience.

Make sure that the journey from cold audience to hot audience to sales is enjoyable. Here is an example:
Let’s say you are a service-based business such as a life coach. Your ideal client is professional women struggling to find balance between work, life and family. They are very busy and very overwhelmed.

You will find your client on Linked-in and your best way to nurture them is through a podcast. Someone this busy probably doesn’t have time to watch videos or read long articles, while they can listen to podcasts while driving.

Your client’s journey could be that cold audience finds you on Linked-in, they warm up to you with reading your native articles on Linked-in which has an invitation to your podcast. From the podcast they download your freebie that leads them to your email list. They are now your hot audience who know, like and trust you and are much more likely to buy your service when you offer it.
This is a client’s journey, and this is how your clients consistently come to you.

Step #5

Be humble and remember that your first job is to serve your community. You must give value before you can ask for the sale. There is nothing wrong getting paid for your expertise, your product and your hard work. You should. People buy from people they know, if you are constantly trying to sell to cold audience, before they are ready, you might as well be banging your head up against a wall. Imagine being at the grocery store and someone walks up to you and asks you to marry them. That’s what selling to cold audience is.

About the Author: Vala Vincent is a social media coach dedicated to help online entrepreneurs to master social media to reach their ideal client. Vala was an award-winning photographer who ended up realizing that helping other business owners run a sustainable business was her true calling. She is a firm believer that small businesses are the future and backbone of this country. She is very passionate about women’s rights and is honored to do her part in paving the way for the women of the future.

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"How to Build Healthy Habits to Build a Strong & Vibrant Brain and Body" with Trudy Stone, Founder of Eat Live and Play on Women Entrepreneurs Radio

Trudy Stone Founder of Eat Live and Play
Show #488

Topic: "How to Build Healthy Habits to Build a Strong & Vibrant Brain and Body" with Trudy Stone, Founder of Eat Live and Play

Trudy shares:

  • How her weight loss journey led her to understand the importance of habits
  • Why she decided to write a book and what was the process
  • Why she decided to start a business & advice for other entrepreneurs 

Trudy Stone is a certified culinary nutritionist, guest expert, speaker, and the founder of Eat Live and Play. She is also the author of the book Unbreakable: 7 Rock Solid Habits to Your Perfect Weight and a Healthier Lifestyle: No Willpower Required!

Five years ago, Trudy self-hacked her own mind and body to lose 30lbs and now helps other women do the same.  She's passionate about empowering women to build healthier habits and unlock the power of food to build a strong and vibrant brain and body without guilt or restriction.

She has appeared on CBC News, CTV, CP24, The National Post, The Huffington Post, Viva Magazine, Chowhound, Daytime Toronto TV, and in 'Star of the Show' alongside TV chef, author and judge of Chopped Canada, Chef Michael Smith.


Twitter: @eatliveandplay

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